My friend Carmen confided in me that her parents are getting divorced. She is very sad about their decision. I want to be a good friend to her, but I’m not sure what to say. Do you have any advice?
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May 11th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
I would say its okay alot of parents get divorced. then i would give her a hug and say come on lets go to my house and make cookies.
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May 11th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
I would tell Carman that if her parents don’t want ot be together anymore then its their decision if they want to get divorced. I would tell her to let it be then go to her house and play video games or sit on the couch and eat while watching television.
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May 11th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
I would probably tell her that alot of people get divorces and tell her that it would be alright and then invite them ver or something like that.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:12 am
I would say that a lot of people get divorced but it is hard to deal with I would ask them if the would like to come over to my house to play watch some TV and have some snacks and to se if they want to sleep over so they would forget about the divorce.
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May 11th, 2009 at 3:17 pm
This is a hard problem to deal with but these would be my exact words: “Carmen, your parents make their own decisions and if they make one they know its the right one. Would you rather see your parents angry at each other always fighting or they could be friends and you can visit your mom and and dad at different days. Its hard to deal with but you have friends and family who will support you. Lets not talk about this anymore, I know its making you sad.” Great words to say!!
PS. I love your you decides, they are all so cool!:D
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May 11th, 2009 at 3:31 pm
First, you should choose your words very carefully when you’re talking to her since she’s in a tough time. You should make sure that everything you say to her is nice or comforting and try to keep the conversation on a different topic so she doesn’t have to keep thinking about it. You can tell her that it could happen to anyone and that she’ll get through it. All in all you should help her out whenever you can and try to keep her happy and off the topic of her parent’s divorce.
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May 11th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
What I would do is that I would say, “Hey, Carmen a lot of parents get divorced and I hate to see you like this because they made that choice too. You can still see them if they don’t live far away. They will still love you equally even though they are not together. And maybe I can come too if you don’t mind because you probably want to spend quality time with them. And you don’t have to see them fighting which will make you more upset to see that. Its their decision and don’t let it get to you. Come on lets go play your favorite game and eat your favorite food at my house to cheer you up. And we can go out for ice cream. I will ask my mom. She will probably say yes.” So I would say that to cheer her up to get her mind off of it and so she won’t get to hung up in it for too long. I would say that because friends have to support other friends if they feel bad. Because if they don’t that’s not a real or true friend.
And these are great you decides Mr. Mundorf. Keep it up!
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May 11th, 2009 at 4:17 pm
I will say, ” I know its hard and tough for you. But you can’t change their decision. Don’t forget that they still love you. And you can still go and live with them time by time and try to spend as much time as you can with each of them.”
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May 11th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
I wouldn’t bring her down to make her even more sad. I would hang around her and tell her funny jokes and ask her to go to the movies or Mackle Park. But I would not even bring up the subject.
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May 12th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Some thing that you always have to know is that they well always love. You should distract them and if nothing happens you should let it be but you could go to your dad’s house on the weekends and can be with her mom on the weeks.
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May 12th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
I would go up to them in school and say do you want to hang out some time. Next I would play with him when I get home from school and play baseball or any other sport he wants to play. I would tell him not to were about his parents because you can still see them.
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May 13th, 2009 at 7:00 am
I would tell her to ask her parents if one day she could spend it with her mom and the day later if she could spend it with her dad.
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May 13th, 2009 at 7:06 am
I would tell her that It is not a big deal and lots of people get divorced and that it doesn’t really change anything that much, and try to make her feel better and try to spend time with her to make her feel better.
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May 13th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
I would tell her that everything was going to be alright and that she would still be able to see both of them.
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May 13th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
well actualy I am going threw the same thing right know so I really cant say because I am in the same pasiton but I know that I dont really like to talk about it but just try to keep her in a good mood and tell her that youb know its a heard thing to go threw in life and try not to think about it so much.
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May 14th, 2009 at 7:53 am
I would tell her to go home, calm down and forget about for a while then talk to her parents and suggest reasonable scheudules for dividing time between the two of them.
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May 14th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
I would just tell here that you should maybe just forget about the divorce and just think of positive things or think about your friends. And maybe that will help here to forget about the divorce.
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May 14th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
its really sad that parents get divorced. give your friend a hug and let him go over your house to forget.
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May 17th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Divorces are pretty tough. I would ask her how she feels about it and talk to her about unless she didn’t want me to.
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May 17th, 2009 at 9:03 pm
I would say its alright alot of parents get divorced. Then I would give her a big hug and say come on lets go to my house and make a cake or do some thing.
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May 18th, 2009 at 5:40 am
I would be supportive and listen. There might be support groups that you could talk to like at your church. Talking to your friends also helps.
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May 18th, 2009 at 6:41 am
I would just kind of give them some time and mabey they will get back together. And I would also do something to make them feel better. I would also spend more time with them.
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May 18th, 2009 at 6:44 am
I was in the same problem. Just try to tell her that you will get over it and just to relax and dont think about it that much or you can get all stressed about it. So just calm her and dont make her even more sad that you arnt talking to her.
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May 18th, 2009 at 6:45 am
I would tell her that divorces are tough and my parents got one too, but you still get to see both parents.
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May 18th, 2009 at 6:47 am
Well you should talk to your parents and then they my not be divorced. And then you can spend some time with your parents. But if the get dicvorced again you can’t to nothing. So tell your mom and dad to be nice together so they don’t have a divorce.
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May 18th, 2009 at 6:51 am
Tell her that you can spend alot of time with them before the get divorced and when they do she can go back and forth between them.
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May 18th, 2009 at 6:59 am
Well one thing you should do is sit down somewhere private start to talk about what you no to say then change the subject to something fun or funny. That would make your friend feel better.:)
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:00 am
I would say that it was ok, and she has a right to be sad. She could come over and do something to take her mind off of it.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:02 am
well maby thea will chang ther mind and deside to not get a dvores. but if not it well be for the beter
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:02 am
I would say that you should be sad and I feel bad for you, i know that it is very depresing.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:07 am
I would tell her not to worry about anything, worse things can happen in her lifetime.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:09 am
I woud let my friend talk about her feeling first then I woud give my friend advice on telling her not to get all up set!!!
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:14 am
I would say to my friend that divorce’s don’t mean that you and your whole family would not do family trips. Just maybe your parents needs some alone time, they can always get remarried and start new. You can always still invite your mom to your dad’s house or you can invite your dad to your mom’s house.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:17 am
I’d tell her not to worry there will be worse things and try to talk to your parents.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:19 am
I would say that it is okay and I will hang out with you more often. You can come over my house also if you want to. There are worse things that could happen to your parents.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:20 am
I will give her as much support as possible and tell her there’s nothing to worry about and it‘s going to be ok
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:21 am
Try to comfort her and tell her that she can get through it. You could also tell her that she is the best friend you have ever had and it might cheer her up.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:21 am
will this problem has happened to me before, and all that i can tell you is that its not very easy so you have to deal with it, and hang out with both parents.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:21 am
I would tell Her it is going to be okay and that I would help her get over it so she could be happy again and she could stop thinking about how bad it really is and would help her through everything.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:22 am
will this problem has happened to me before, and all that i can tell you is that its not very easy so you have to deal with it, and hang out with both parents so you can get aalong with them.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:26 am
I would help her out and do everything that i could do. I would give her as much support as i could.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:26 am
I would say that I will help her go past this and I would say that I will help you to stop them from going to do this.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:29 am
I wouldn’t lie and tell her everything was going to be okay. I would tell her that a lot of kid’s parents are divorced. She should just stay strong no matter what happens. She shouldn’t blame herself because there is no way it’s their fault. It’s her parents decision.
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May 18th, 2009 at 7:36 am
I will say that since my parents are divorced to what I did was stay with my brother and he helped me get through it because he was 14 and I was 3.
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May 18th, 2009 at 9:28 am
I would tell her that alot of people get divorced and she should just wait to see what happens.
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May 18th, 2009 at 10:35 am
I would do up to her and say it will be okay. I would talk to her and ask her if the arrangements of when she would be with her parents were okay with her and tell her to give some suggestions of when she wanted to be with her mom and dad.
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May 18th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
Tell her it will be ok because it will be and that you will always be there for her.
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May 18th, 2009 at 5:59 pm
Iwould tell her that a buch of parents get divorced and tell her to look on the bright side she has 2 cristmases and there wont be anymore fighting and arguing anymore. and then I’ll say that whenever she’s at her mom or dads house i’ll be over there.
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May 22nd, 2009 at 6:12 am
I would talk to her and try to make her feel better. If it was making her even more sad i would drop the subject and go do something fu and not even bring it up.
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